Bruce and I have started a new tradition of getting away mid-December for a birthday trip. This year I happened to grab a date pack from a Rekindle that we had done in 2013 (Date 9 http://www.marriageandfamilyatscc.com/date-night-rekindle.html) and shoved it in my purse. On the way to the beach, we opened up the section on “The Yearly Love List”. Here’s what it looks like:
1. The Top 10 Review
Being intentional about remembering 10 positive memories from the recent year is a way to live out Philippians 4:8: “Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” We certainly need to address issues of concern on a regular basis (see the monthly list) so that we can be free to enjoy memorable interactions and activities together.
Consider these factors:
* Decide what constitutes a highlight
* Use photos and videos if interested
* Enjoy the process
a. Define what a highlight is for both of you.
b. How would you like to celebrate your highlights? An informal family night, a couples dinner/dessert, etc.?
2. Chart your course for the coming year
What does it mean to chart your course? It means being proactive about where you’d like to be as a couple in 12 months. Rather than moving through life simply reacting to outside forces, it means taking charge and sitting in the driver’s seat.
Consider these factors:
* Ask for God’s plans
* Consider what matters most
* Consider what you’d like to change
* Set specific goals
* Trust God
a. Consider the following areas where you might want to set goals as a couple: spiritual goals, social goals, family goals, personal goals, financial goals, career goals, and recreational goals.
b. Explore ways to mark your progress in the coming year.
We had a great discussion in the car about our past year and made some easy goals for this next year. Top of the list? Relax more. Have more fires in our fire pit in the summer. Spend time with our family and friends. Play more. We have definitely been in hard work mode and this was a good reminder to enjoy the process.
Check out the rest of the date contents (there is a daily list, weekly list, and monthly list with great suggestions) on this website under the Date Night:Rekindle tab!
Author: Carey Penner