One of the things I’ve noticed around the internet and heard from friends is the desire to read more books. I could be wrong, but it seems like a common habit that people want to develop. This month I thought I’d share a few of my favorite books that have helped our marriage inadvertently. They’re not books about marriage, but they’ve made an impact on the way I live and how I think about our marriage.
Love Does: Discover A Secretly Incredible Life in an Ordinary World
Bob Goff fills chapter after chapter with stories from his life. I laughed til I cried through chapter four (just a little teaser for you). He describes loving God and loving people in a way that invites you to live fully engaged in your own life and look for ways to love the people around you extravagantly. This book was a great reminder for me that love is an action. It's a choice. People don’t know what I’m thinking or how I’m feeling unless I tell them or show them.
A Million Little Ways: Uncover the Art You Were Meant to Live
I want to give this book to everyone I know. This was a fist pump, happy dance, shout yes to every sentence kind of book. Emily Freeman speaks grace-filled words to the heart of who we are as image-bearers of Christ. She describes the journey of realizing that we are all artists through the process of living out our art in the world. Her writing is deeply rooted in who God is and how we respond to Him as created beings. This is for everyone, not just visual artists.
One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are
This was a game-changer. Gratitude changes everything. Everything. Ann Voskamp tells her story of counting gifts and finding joy even in the midst of suffering. Her words are life-giving and point right to Jesus, inviting us to press in and learn how to see the gifts all around us. I’m a dreamer, and I have learned to fight for contentment right where I am instead of wishing for something else. This book has been a big part of that journey for me. I recommend listening to the audiobook and having a hard copy for this one. Ann reads the book, and you can hear the intended emotion in her words. It’s beautiful and adds meaning. It’s also full of good stuff, so having it around on paper to read and let the words really sink in is so helpful.
These are just a few of my favorites. I like to read. Its one of my favorite things. I have a full schedule in this season of life though, so I don’t always get the time that I want to curl up with a good book. So I’ve started listening to audiobooks as a way to make it through my to-read list. I’ll go back and buy a hard copy of a book if it resonates with me, but otherwise I use the local library to borrow books. If you have a smart phone and a library card, you can actually download audiobooks and ebooks right to your phone and listen from there. The Benton-County Library uses an app called Overdrive for this. You can find it easily in the Apple and Android app stores.
Micah and I both like listening to books on our own and then coming back to talk about them when we’re done. We’ve read a few books like this that have ended up being good for our relationship just from the conversations they spark. We’ve found it to be a way to get to know each other and understand the other person’s perspective a little more.
If you’re not a reader, don’t worry! This isn’t for everyone. These are just a few of my favorite books that I wanted to share with you in case you haven’t heard of them yet. Listening to books together is something that has been fun for Micah and I, but it won’t be an exciting connection point for everyone. There’s no pressure to try this out, though I would encourage giving audiobooks a try if you haven’t already. Find ways to connect with your spouse that will be meaningful for the two of you.
Author: Abi Losli